Sticks and stones may break my bones, but how can pixels hurt me?
Lately I’ve realized that people spend about half of their lives hiding behind a computer screen, and the other half trying to be the person that they’ve created through their twitter feed.
Social Media is a major source of comparison for a lot of people. We think, she has more friends on facebook than I do, or one of his tweets have more favorites than all of mine put together, and her life is so much more interesting than mine, just look at all of her instagram photos.
Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram also encourage competition. Twitter is the modern “humble brag.” In 140 characters we can tell people how amazing our lives are, and it’s fine, because “that’s what twitter is for.” We all want more friends, more retweets, and more likes, to show to our peers, my life is better than yours.
This is a problem. Comparison and competition are huge sources for stress and anxiety. People want to know that they are loved and accepted, but it’s easy to think yeah people like me, but not as much as they like her, when we are staring at a computer screen.
Our social media selves are only show the highlights. People post the good, and leave out the bad. We aren’t vulnerable and real online. It’s impossible to compete with someones best, when you are stuck competing with your bests and worsts and everything in between. And the same goes for comparison. Don’t compare your whole self to someone’s social media self. It’s not fair to you or the person you are comparing yourself with.
I’m not saying you should go delete all of you social media accounts. That would be counter productive. Social Media does great things in our modern society. It allows us to stay in touch with old and new friends, and it lets us share events and memories with our family. Social Media is a really good thing, when we use it the right way.
It’s fine to check Facebook and go through your Twitter feed. But know that there is so much more to a person than their Social Media profiles. Keeping up with people through Social Media is a wonderful thing, but it’s also important to keep up with people in real life.
Social Media doesn’t have to be a source of competition and comparison.
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